Not knowing is OK!


Knowing you want to do something different with your life and starting that journey is the easy bit. Deciding what that change should be is usually a little harder for most of us. At Map Our Lives we constantly hear people say - "I'm not happy with my life but I don't know what I need to do to be happy".

The most important thing to remember is NOT knowing what you want to do is OK!!! Stop seeing it as a negative and start realising it is just the starting point of your new journey. When most of us think about setting goals, they revolve around what we want our life to be like in 6 months or a year. It is therefore normal to start feeling uncomfortable when you don't know what that life should look like but know you want to be somewhere different.

Stop the negative thoughts. Stop the feeling of being uncomfortable. Feel excited. Not knowing just adds to the fun - it adds to the journey. Make finding out your first goal.

If you don't know what you want, start focusing on how you want to feel. Write down that feeling. It might be happy, it might be financially secure, it might be proud, it might be loved. Once you have a feeling, you can start the process of researching how to achieve that feeling.

Let me take the example of "financially secure" - a popular one for lots of us. Lets start breaking that feeling down into some questions:
  • What does financially secure actually mean to you? Does it mean having enough money to get through the month, paying off your mortgage in a year, having a deposit to buy your own house within 6 months? Always match your goal with a timescale. It gives it a clear target for you to focus on.
  • Once you have established the true meaning, start quantifying WHAT it means in physical terms. Does it mean having an extra $500 a month? An extra $1000 per month? 
  • We are now getting deeper into what you need to achieve your goal so can start looking at HOW you can achieve it. Will it mean getting a new job? Will it mean cutting back on unnecessary expenditure?
  • Lets take getting a new job which pays more as the method. Is there anything out there now which you can apply for which will pay what you need? If not what would you like to be doing? What are your interests that link in with a job you would enjoy? What additional training might you need to do first to get the job you want?
The points above are purely as an example. The key point to take away is start understanding what your goals really mean. Vague goals are unachievable goals. Set timescales, set values - be specific and most importantly - enjoy the journey.

Use Map Our Lives to help you start understanding what you new life might look like and also help empower your mind to do all the hard work for you!

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